What is the best way to date as a transgender?

What is the best way to date as a transgender?

November 12, 2019

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Dating is exciting for everyone, but if you are transgender, it still has some extra challenges. Another often has to get used to your situation. But your own fear and uncertainty can also get in the way. What is the best way to date as a transgender?

When you are in transition, you are often strongly focused on your own personal development. How much room is there for someone else that you still have to get to know? The answer is different for everyone. You may like to stay single and pay all your attention on your own process. Or you actually feel the space to get to know someone else, and you notice that you are ready for that.

Transgender people are often uncertain about themselves. For all sorts of reasons, for example: You are ashamed of your body because, in your opinion, it is not "consistent" with how it should be. You worry if people can see "it" in you and what they will think of it. You have heard many negative judgments about transpersons. You have come to believe in this yourself over time and therefore do not think you are the way you are. You have had negative experiences in friendship or in love. If you are unsure, you will not get a date. Because if you don't like yourself, what will someone else think of you? However, that is often not the case. But you are probably too much concerned with what you think are your negative aspects, and then you forget your positive qualities. You only see what you think is wrong with yourself, but another sees how beautiful, thoughtful or funny you are.

If you are uncertain, you will hide yourself. The other person cannot get to know you. The more you believe in yourself and the more you dare to show of yourself, the better the other can discover how beautiful you are as a person. Do you suffer from uncertainty? Then talk about it. With family, friends or with a social worker. And read more about dealing with the outside world. Realize: you are different, but you can be as you are.

Can I find someone?

Apart from the uncertainty about yourself, you can be afraid that you cannot find anyone. You may be wondering: don't people prefer dating someone who is not transgender? The answer is: no, not necessarily. Why? There is nothing wrong with being transgender. Many people unfortunately have prejudices about it. But there are also enough people who can look beyond their prejudices, and then see you: a beautiful person in a special situation. Your body may not be thirteen-in-a-dozen. But who says that "different" cannot be beautiful? It depends on how you look at it. Moreover: someone who is in love with you often finds your body beautiful simply because it is your body. So don't worry, you will find a perfect date. If you want some help with finding a date, you can sign up on a transgender datingsite and once you are signed up, you will have the oppertunity too browse through the profiles of members and you will find your perfect date. 

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